…having it all.

You can have it all, but don’t expect to have it all at once. If you are a parent raising small children and working a full-time job there is very little time left for school unless you have a very good support system. Your time is your most valuable asset. Your children are only small for a short period of time so if at all possible try not to cut into time spent with them. If you are in a relationship, married or otherwise, your partner needs face time too. If you have pets, Fluffy and Fido need attention so factor that time in first. Pace yourself when it comes to balancing out your life. When you are making the decision to reinvent yourself, sit down and think about what you are really willing to sacrifice. Some things can never be regained so be careful. On the flip side, do not be so giving that you don’t give yourself some me time. If you find that you are starting to resent folks when doing favors it might be time for a little me time. The goal here is to find something that you are passionate about and do it. Now, let me just warn you parents out there about the effects of finding your passion. For example, if you are a reader, have you noticed that just when you sit down and start really enjoying the book, your kid shows up and wants to have that meaningful talk. As a matter of fact, I discovered that it is a good way to get your children to talk to you. Try it sometime! The next time that you want to talk to your child(ren), sit down on the couch with your favorite book and act like you are really enjoying yourself. Within minutes they will suddenly appear with a situation that needs your immediate attention. LOL, all you single folks take notes, you might need this advice one day. If you don’t believe me, try it and let me know how it works for you.

… show me the money!

Welcome back gentle readers. I became inspired to continue with this blog after watching “Julie and Julia” last night. Better late than never, right? Okay, I have been talking to you about spending wisely. However, in order to spend money you have to have money. Back in my younger days we referred to being broke as “eating ice”. I’m talking about being broke, busted and totally disgusted. I remember my breaking point as the day I lost my mind over a jar of salad dressing. My family gave me an economy size jar one Christmas as a joking reminder of my insanity. At the time I was in deep despair over my inability to purchase the name brand of my choice. It was then that I realized that despite my best efforts and intentions, my financial life was out of balance. So I started to focus on what I had coming in the front door. In order to change my circumstances I had to change my market value as an employee. It is not enough in these times to be a hard worker. You need to bring something to the employer that makes you stand out above the rest. If it means going back to school or learning a new skill then you should do that. But you should not do it on any one's terms but your own. Do not let some fast talking salesperson or representative give you the speech about hurry up or it will be too late. It is never too late as long as you have breath in your body. When you stop breathing, guess what, at that point none of it matters. Reinventing yourself is not only about getting a better education. Sometimes the easiest and most cost effective way to change is to simply change your attitude. Believe it or not, putting on a smile and presenting a positive outlook can reap huge results. People have often told me that I am lucky. I was riding down the street on day and saw these words posted on the side of a building “Luck is being prepared for opportunity”. I didn’t create that statement but it really resonates in my soul. Over the years I have constantly prepared myself for better opportunities. I didn’t want to sacrifice time with my child so when she was young I did self study computer based training (CBT) during my lunch break at work. If your job offers free training take it! Knowledge is power and has the power to transform and move you into a higher paying job. Another tidbit is to find your passion and the money will follow. I would rather work a job that pays less but gives me self satisfaction than one that pays an enormous salary that I don’t enjoy. I am speaking from experience here so pay attention. Much of what I am saying to you can be found in any self help book on the shelf. But, just like a cookbook if you don’t try it then it’s just a recipe. I have cooked in the game called life and I can tell you quite honestly that these little tidbits work. If you want to change your circumstance today, just stop and ask yourself what can I do at this very moment to make my life better tomorrow?

...going out the back door.

Greetings all and welcome to my blog. I named this site fifty-nine cents because all the good names were taken and I remembered a little rhyme we used to sing about trying to make a dollar out of fifty-nine cents. With the economy in the toilet these days many folks are squeezing their dollars to get the most bang for the buck. I thought that it would be a great topic for a blog. My first post will speak to bad spending habits. The bottom line is that if you spend more money than you make you are broke. It doesn't matter how much you make if you spend more than you make you are BROKE!!!! It doesn't matter how much credit you have or can get. If you owe more money than you have you are essentially BROKE!!!!! A woman earning minimum wage who saves a dollar every payday is richer than you even if you earn six figures. So stop kidding yourself. When I see fancy cars or homes I think nice, but how much did that cost them? People can acquire all kinds of stuff, but the trick is keeping it. As the recent housing market decline showed us, many people are living beyond their means and got caught when the bottom dropped out. I realize that it was difficult in some areas to purchase affordable housing. But, remember the market was driven up by people who were willing to agree to almost any term to get that dream house. And for what? Who did you impress? How impressed were they when the foreclosure sign went up? Did they offer to pay your mortgage? I don't think so. Chances are they were covering up the foreclosure sign on their own doors. So, robbing Peter to pay Paul to please Mary is just STUPID!!! Okay enough of the soap box, let's talk about how to get and stay on your feet. The first step is to clearly understand where you really are financially. No fancy equipment or software needed. Get a copy of your credit report(s). Get all three if you can afford it because they sometimes will vary. Don't be scared. If debt collectors are on your trail, then go to a car dealer and act like you are buying a car. They will pull your credit report and it they are nice may even give you a copy. We'll talk about evasive maneuvers in another post. Okay, back to business. Sit down and review your credit history. If you need a box of tissue it's okay. Believe it or not once you face that fear it gets better. The next step is to write down a life plan. It should be at least one year and no more than five. When you write out your plan, put down all the things that you want to do and could feasibly do within the time frame. Don't cheat yourself either. Once you make your plan go back to your credit report and make a plan of how you plan to pay off your debt. Keep in mind the things that you have already written down on your life plan. One thing that I discovered when I was fighting bills was that I needed to reward myself after working hard every week. I went through several years of denying myself and felt extremely guilty when I bought anything for me. Now I'm not talking about expensive bling, fancy cars or such. Sometimes something as simple as a specialty cup of coffee will do the trick. One of the things that you will learn by writing down what you owe, how you plan to pay for it and what you want to do, is where you are wasting your money. Another thing that you must determine is what is a need and what is a want. For example, cable TV, manicures, pedicures, the regular trips to the barber or beauty salon, cigarettes, beer, and wine ARE NOT NEEDS!!! A roof over your head, food (and I don't mean eating out or take out) clothing, and basic transportation are modern day needs. By the way, a beige Mercedes is not basic transportation get over it. For those of you who are people pleasers you should start asking yourself, Why? The bottom line here is that if you earn $100 and spend $75 you have $25 to the good. Just basic math. If you train yourself to spend no more than a set limit that is less than what you can afford to spend you should do okay. What can you afford? Well a simple rule is if it takes you less than six months to pay back, think about saving up for the item if possible and paying cash. A clear sign that you are broke is that you can't afford to save. If you can't afford to save, then you can't afford that item that is most likely a want and not a need. Grandma always told us, "It's not what you have coming in the front door, it's what's going out the back. Think about it! I'm not a finance professional or a self proclaimed economist. I am just an average woman who has survived and conquered being in debt. Please stop by regularly and join in on my blog.